Learning From A CEO's Words

人生が変わる方法は３つしかない。

１番目は時間配分を変える。
２番目は住む場所を変える。
３番目は付き合う人を変える。

この３つの要素でしか人間は変わらない。最も無意味なのは「決意を新たにすること」。

大前研一

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Kenichi Ohmae said,

There are only three ways to change your life.

1. Change your time allocation.
2. Change your place of residence.
3. Change group of people you hang out with.

These three are the only elements which can change a person.
To make a fresh resolve is the least meaningful thing.

I think it does makes sense.

Statistically, your future income is expected to be the average income of ten people you hang out with.

If you can't remember who they are, probably you can find out checking your call logs or message logs.

Think about your workplace; your life is projected to become similar to that of your long-tenured colleagues.

Do you find them attractive?
Do they embody your future self?

If someone asks me those questions, I'll say, "NO"!

You told me you know you feel uneasy continuing to be like this.
You told me you know you have to do something to get a better future.

However, you say you don't think you are going to start something, because you feel it's annoying. Even though it may lead you in the right direction.

Don't you think you'll regret your actions later on?

I think it sucks that when you're about to die, you recall your past, and regret that you couldn't do something you wanted to do from the bottom of your heart.

Before I die, I want to be proud of myself because I tried everything I wanted to do and had a really great life.

So, what's next for me will be starting a new life somewhere different on this planet. Which I can't prevent myself from changing my place of residence and group of people I hang out with.

My Future With ageLOC Me

Do you know about ageLOC Me? (genLOC Me in Japan)

I've been using their Galvanic Spa, and definitely felt my skin condition has changed.

You buy something, maybe it was okay, but you think maybe there is a better one and you keep searching.

However, from now on, you will be free from those effort you have been making for finding your best one!

Once you start using this innovative product, you can customize your skincare product based on your environment, your skin, and your preference.

It's an innovative skincare system. Once you try it, you will notice the difference of the latest gene care technology. Galvanic Spa already did better than I expected, so why don't I expect more for this latest product?

Anyway, I have one and also letting my friends try it sometimes. Luckily (Or is it an of course thihg?), I'm getting positive comments and it makes me happy.

I'm looking forward to see myself in the future ;)

What Kind Of Party Do You Want To Have In Here?

When I was invited to a party and came to this space, something came up on my mind; I definitely want to organize a salsa party.

It must be so great dancing there seeing the city lights in Tokyo and have nice drinks.

Well, the problem is, I have to move sofas there and make a space for dancing and I don't know if it's possible.

I also want to play werewolf game there...maybe this will be not so difficult?

How about you? Any good ideas? If you have any good ideas, please let me know and we can make it become reality ;)

Dancing Salsa Under The Christmas Lights

Unfortunately, I can't create anything with hands like her for now. However, I have some ideas just to have fun with friends and that is one of the outputs and that is dancing somewhere that looks impromptu (But where I believe it must be fun).

When a lot of Christmas lights started to appear in the city, I just wondered if it was possible to dance under such lights. I started dancing Cuban salsa in June last year, and was enjoying it. Firstly, I thought about finding somewhere which has space enough to dance, and play just one song, then dance and leave. I asked my most favorite friend to dance with if he would help my dream become reality. However, his answer was no. He told me that the lights are every one's so we can't occupy. He also asked me if I have the way to play music there. It was a disappointing moment for me. I was sad. However, I couldn't give it up. A few days later, I told some friends about my idea when I went to take a lesson. And you know, I got a positive reaction from them!

Thus, my small dream was carried to be reality owing friends. Four people gathered beside the Christmas tree and we danced! And that night definitely became one of the most impressive days in my life.

It's Time For An Output

It feels that I slowly becoming stable. I mean, I slowly understanding what I am, what I want to do, etc. I knew that I'm a little bit different from how general Japanese girls around my age are. I've been getting those situations around me as "Input" signals and they absolutely affected me. I've been enjoying with those inputs and hadn't really thought of expressing myself somewhere unless to some close friends. However, probably now it's the time.

There are great people around me and I kind of envy their skills or passion that they create something and sharing with people. They do what they want to do, and it brings someone small happiness. As an example, let me talk about my sister. She has been making Tsumamizaiku -A kind of accessories for kimono- for some years and she is getting better and better. These a few years, she sometimes goes to handmade market and sells the stuff she made. She is such a modest so she doesn't set a high price on her work. But if you go to stores you'll be surprised how expensive those stuffs are! She just likes making them and feels happy when someone likes her stuff and uses it! So, I whenever I find someone who seems to be interested in those things, I always show them some pictures of my sister's work and let them know that they can order those things to my sister with a good price. I believe she feels more comfortable when she knows what they want and the thing is promised to be used :)

Sweet, Sour, Might Be Bitter

I know I can be myself because I'm independent. I can feed myself of course, can hang out with friends, and go traveling sometimes without relying on anyone about the cost. I'm such a girl who likes having a simple life, however, it's not too simple and I enjoy such small happiness which adds colours on it. However, sometimes I feel like I'm stuck in the air. It's been a couple and half years since I started living by myself. I almost never felt lonely until recently. I've heard from some people they can't turn off the TV because they feel lonely staying home alone without sounds. They started going out for a dinner more often once they left their parents house, etc. I was almost never bothered by such situations and I was a kind of proud of it. However, one day, I felt like eating sweet and sour pork so much. It was on my mind more than a week. Yes, I know I can buy it at a supermarket. I can probably go to a restaurant and order it. However, I knew that it won't satisfy my heart. I wanted to eat something that someone cooked for me. Not for business but just for a favor. I seriously thought going to parents house for such food.

Fortunately, I got a chance to eat it without going back to hometown. I remembered one of my friends had told me he could cook most of the Chinese food that are generally known in Japan. I didn't expect too much but just asked him if he would do me a favor...and it made my small desire become reality. The food was delicious and I got someone to eat with! It made me warm inside enough to make me weep (I didn't because I tried hard not to, lol)!! Anyway, it was such an impressive event. And recently, I realized something. It happened the other day; I upload pictures of the results of my cooking sometime on facebook and someone told me that he wanted to try them. You know what, such words from the person absolutely didn't turn me on. I naturally felt it would at a potluck party or picnic if he gets such a chance. However, I tried to cook yummy food when my sister came over. I spent time more than usual as I cook just for myself, and tried to cook good stuff. I just wanted her to feel happy and spend great time with me. Then I realized, cooking is love. When I cook for someone, I think about the person and hope I can see him/her smile and probably I want such love. Especially in these winter days. Getting into my dark and chilly tiny room after work, microwave the food I already cooked before, and finish it in 10 minutes being silent...Okay, I don't want to keep doing this until next winter. I want to eat with someone in a light warm and calm place having a conversation and smile. I'm sure the sweet and sour pork day became the point that I started thinking about such thing. However, how can I make it?

Should I just move out from here?
- I don't think it will make a big difference just changing a place if I still have to come back in an dark empty room everyday.

So, should I start living with someone?
- If so, it will be a boyfriend but doesn't it usually take time till both people feel the same way? And currently, I don't even have one.


Even I realized I want to get out from this situation, it's not an easy thing because I'm scared of not being responsible and also not confident about certain things. I don't even know who I should be with. It feels like the time is running out and I'm lost like a little child. Some people say they just strongly felt it when they met their husband / wife for the fist time that they were gonna get married. Some say it's better to be with someone you like. Some say it's better to be with someone who loves you. I think everyone has a different answer. The answer that went well with someone may not suit you because everyone is different. I don't know if such a day comes that I naturally find a way that I'm going through or if I have to force myself at some point. If so, there will be something that I have to sacrifice but probably it's an of course thing because I don't think everyone can get everything they want. Should I try to grab Kairos' bangs when he appears next time even it doesn't look attractive at the moment? Or, should I let him go but there isn't a guarantee that I'll regret later not getting to see him again because I can't catch him from behind because his head is bald backside.

The God Of The Chance

Kairos has only bangs. You have to catch him when he comes to you. It'll be too late once he passes since his back head is bald so you can't catch. So, you shouldn't miss the opportunity when it comes to you. It's not just once. He appears again and again. However, you have to be ready to grab his bangs at the right timing. You can't save up the chance and that what I'm struggling about. I hope that I'll be ready and won't miss a chance when he comes to me next time.

Hopeless Hope

It is impossible to get someone's attention. That what I have been feeling. There are some people that I want to become friends with, or want to get special attention from. However you try, however you show them you want to know about them and also want them to know about you more, probably such things usually don't go well as you want and you may get disappointed. Therefore, what I always trying to do is, not to expect anything. Whenever you do a favor for someone, don't expect any returns from them and just think it will be a happy accident if something which makes you glad happens. Once you throw things from your hand, you can never control them. Just let them go to the direction as they want. And if you ever receive something back, show the appreciation.

Thinking about what others feel or think is so tiring because its just a "Guess" as long as you are different person and you never know if they tell you a lie or not even you ask them and get an answer. So, why don't you forget about it for a while and it's not too late to cerebrate it when you receive any good reaction after a while.

So...that's what I'm trying to do which is not as easy as I say sometimes. But, I hope it works.

I'm Just A Girl

I'm in the ironic mood these days because something depressing happened and I'm going to throw it out here just to release my feelings.

It's just what seems to be for me, but...I'm not that pretty but I know some people like my looks. I have received a compliment about it sometimes, and if I had to say if it's good or bad, I would say, of course it's a positive thing. However, such compliments make me sad as well.

Sometimes, someone tells me I look pretty. And I say thank you.
And what?

There are some experiences I've been through about relationships and whatever, and basically the guy liked my looks but I don't know if they ever tried to know about me as a person or a girl. I don't know what they have on their mind...of course everyone is not the same but how can they do something like

Buying stupid adult toys as a souvenir and tells me its for "Us" (It totally turned me off).
Keep telling that he doesn't care and want to make out when I was saying I had period and didn't want to do such a thing.

Try to kiss or make out without confirming if I'm available for such things without having a relationship.
And after such kiss, they sound like they are not interested in knowing about me.

The former two are something about my ex and the latter are about my "Friend".

Personally, I don't want to kiss or do anything more unless I'm in a relationship. And when such a thing happen, I get sad or disappointed especially when I was under the impression he is nice and there is something I admire about him.

I say, something happened recently and I just realized that I get more sad and disappointed as the days go by.
For me, a kiss or whatever is something more than just a friend. But it seems like guys are different in general.
One of my male friend says I have to realize that they just want to kiss her if she is pretty.


And I think it is truth because it describes why my latest relationship didn't work.
He told me I look pretty, etc. But never tried to know about me and I personally feel it's not because of the distance.
If that was the case, he could treat me in much better way.

If they like just my looks, I don't want them to come by me.
There are a lot of girls who are far prettier than me.
I don't want a guy who cares about my looks more than who I am.
I'd rather make friends who are interested in me and can hangout and spend time together.

It's a sad story but I realized I got to know a lot of people in past 3, 4 years. but there are just a few people who were interested in my personality and actually got to know about me in some extent.

I don't deny it's nice to have many acquaintances. However, it's not what I want for now.

My Life Here Is Getting Interesting

The more people I get connected with, the more interesting my life becomes. If I ask myself, who just started working 5 years ago, if she can imagine how her life will be, I'm definitely sure she can't imagine how things will be. I feel I'm connected here with people, and not thinking of letting my current circumstances go unless I have a reason good enough for it.

Recently, I got connected with my old crush again. He and I were not close while we were in the same school. It was my one-sided feeling and I never told him about it those days. Of course, such feeling has gone already long time ago. However, I found it interesting. I got connected with a person whom I never had expected to see ever again and he even seems interested in the events I currently taking a part of sometime. He is such a normal typical guy of my generation, and I totally haven't had a chance to hang out with them in my life these past years. I'm holding a small gathering at my favorite restaurant in Tokyo next Wednesday, and he is coming. 16 people are attending for now, and you know what, his first love is coming. When I asked my friends if anyone is interested in coming with us, the girl, who I haven't met for 13 years told me was interested and told me she wanted to come. I do not know if they've met after graduation. Anyway, no matter what, it'll be exciting. Really looking forward to it!!

I Will Follow What I Want To Follow

There is someone that I probably remember about for a while whenever I see or hear a specific thing.

He was nice to me firstly but didn't treat me properly in the end. The way he took was too cold as a friend, even as an acquaintance. All the lies he told me hurt me, but, I don't take whole the thing negatively. Because, I definitely got a chance to open a new door.

I know a better way to treat people if I get into the the same situation.
Of course, just saying is easy and my circumstance is different from his.
But still, my impression about is, it was one of the worst way. And I didn't do anything to deserve it.

However, I'm pretty happy about what I went through.
Even there was negative things, I'm sure there was more positive things I learned.

Time For The New Generation

I had been using my old watch for more than 3 years. Recently, I realized I can't keep fixing it again and again anymore. It's just surprising to notice that much time passed so quickly, and I say "Time flies". I don't know if the stories are really correct since my memories are getting vague after those years. However, what I can clearly say is it was my special...Something special and memorial. Even after long time, there are some scenes that haven't disappeared completely.

I still remember when you put it on my left hand when we were leaving your room.
I still remember when you said it looks good on me.
I still remember you said "Don't catch your skin" when I hadn't gotten used to wear it by myself.
I still remember that the time I started keeping it was when we went to fix your another watch.
I still remember I asked you if I can keep it until you tell me you need it back.

Probably you got some idea why my new one is almost exactly the same as the old one and I do not deny it's one of the reasons. However, it actually doesn't matter so much. From months ago, I've been searching for a new cool one but couldn't find what I like. Fortunately or unfortunately, it's still on top of my favorite watch designs. Actually, I was also under the impression that it is a pirate of a very expensive watch and I didn't feel I would find the same thing unless I buy the "Real" one and it is not affordable. So, I kind of gave up on finding a same one. But you know what, one day I found the almost exact thing online! It was such so shocking and unexpected. So you know how much excited I was!!

Anyway, the new one I purchased looks almost the same as the old one. However, it's definitely time for the new generation!! :D

Beside it, I have to reveal that the wrist band is still the old one. Searching for something cool, I realized the wrist belt is not original but from a very expensive watch, so it'll be really tough to find the same thing. So, I'd rather choose keep using the old one.

Anyway, it's time for the new generation. I'm sure I'll go through happy times and also tough times with my new partner and will see the future together :)

My 5 Small Goals For 2013

Since My 2013 started in a bad mood, I didn't really have energy to work on things. Recovering from there, I think I finally mention about my small goals for this year.

1. Become active for the things I like.
I can't go aggressively when I'm not confident even for a thing I like. So, I want to become more brave.

2. Accept favors.
It's getting better than before, but I'm under the impression that I'm still not good at accepting someones favor.

3. Read 200 books.
I'll read whatever I feel like reading...I'm going to the library, borrow books, and try to finish them somehow.

4. Do not leave things to do later and try doing my best.
I won't put off doing my task and will even choose a better way if it's affordable.

5. Find a small side business.
The important thing is, it has to be something I enjoy, and also makes small money. It doesn't have to be big...Just for self satisfaction.

By the way, even this year started uncomfortably as I said, maybe it's not that bad. Looking on the bright side, my 2013 must not go any worse because it started from minus. There is only a way to go up. Adding the 6th thing, probably I have to be positive whatever happens :)

That Is What She Can Be Like

Everything is done. That's what she feels now. It was way better than she expected, and she is satisfied about everything happened that day. There are lots of small stories she wants to record, but I know she won't release it here because she'd not feel so comfortable showing those treasures to random people. She keeps them in her heart basically, and only her good friends get to share them.


Basically what she wants to tell is, "Just a little thing can make her the happiest girl on the earth".

That was what she didn't expect that she would feel again.
Now she knows she get the feeling again sometime in the future.
So, this article is just for giving herself a clue to remember about that specific day that was very special for her.



She did something she believes it brought small happiness to him.

He did something to her and it warmed her heart.

However, she didn't let something happen even she wanted it badly.

There was a rule and she knew she would get hurt and regret if she came over the line.



I believe, if there is what is called proud woman, that's what she wants to be :)
So, even if she cries sometimes, I believe that she is strong and can grab the happiness by herself.
Because, I know now she knows she doesn't have to try hard standing by her own feet anymore when she has someone to rely on.

When things happen, they just happen. You can't control everything, so it's better to stay calm and let them happen.

Amazing Woman

When something doesn't go well, it doesn't go well anyways however you struggle. The timing takes a great part for the success as well, but even you wait until the right time comes, and try again when you find it, you can't get the result you want every time.
I've been saying that,

Liking someone is a miracle.
If the person likes you back, and having a relationship, it's a super miracle.

I think I collapsed the super miracle. I thought I should have learned something from my past experiences, and became a better person. However, I realized I haven't gotten better as I wanted and made the same mistakes again. I don't say it was just about my side, but if both people could be flexible and tried a little bit more to get close to the other person's side, there would have been a different way...or probably the same after all?

One thing is, I concentrated on standing with just my own feet too much. This relationship was different from my any other past from the beginning because of it. Trying not to show my weakness and wanted to look independent, maybe I missed something important. Probably, I should have depended on him sometime but I didn't...maybe I was scared as well, and it was also because I know I suck at it.

Probably, I was the one who hurt the person. Even I swore I was telling the very truth, and very honest feelings I had, he didn't believe me. Personally, I don't like telling lies so I actually don't. I'm also very serious about things, which can be my good point, but also can be a bad point. Obviously, it worked as a latter this time...or maybe every time at the similar situation in the past. I didn't want to hurt anyone but maybe my action made him suspicious. Even the person was unique for me in some points, I should have faced them since I'm with the only person but others. I think I measured those things only with my measure, and it was too late when I noticed that he had another one that was way different from mine.

Maybe there was no other results in the end sooner or later. If I take it positively, I say, it was good that I got into such a super miracle situation I thought I would never go through again, touched someones sweetness, and got a chance to face myself again. As I mentioned just now, I admit I'm too serious at the time that he or most people don't think I have to be, and it actually makes things even worse sometimes. However, the words my friend said saved me a bit.

"You were serious because you treated it as a precious thing."

I wonder if she noticed that I was about to weep at that time :) Yes, I was serious all the time because I took it as a special thing.

There is still a long long way to become a matured amazing woman I want to be.

The History Was Taken Over

To tell the truth, I haven't planned it till my friend told me that I could get a new iPhone for free. Telling the truth, I didn't need to get it immediately. I'm not that type of girl who wants to get the latest phone as soon as it comes out. However, since there is a period to get it for nothing, and feeling that my phone was slowly breaking after 2 years of use, I applied for new one.

I've changed my phone some times in the past. Whenever I got a new one, they copied the contacts to my new phone but I had to back up and transfer some data by myself, such as pictures, music, etc. However, this time, because of a good back up system for iPhone, I got almost every single data to my new phone without doing almost anything. I even didn't have to custom settings again because it was as perfect as I set on my old phone.

In the past, when I switched to a new phone, there was always something that I lost. For example, there was no way to keep things such as text messages that I'd exchanged. Regardless I wanted it or not, there was no way to keep those things in my new phone. However, I was shocked when I found those things, which I never had received in my new phone, appeared there this time. Changing phone was like leaving the past and start a new history. But now, it seems different. Unless I do something on purpose, the new phone takes over the history that the old one has...maybe at least as long as I keep using iPhone?

Mmmm, I think this is just a random post of my sentiments.

I Like People Around Me

I don't know if I've been changed these years...hopefully I have in a good way. I thought that my life became fun compared to a couple of years ago.

I think I was passive and negative at that time because I couldn't believe the words which I wanted to believe. Actually, they were too random.

But now I feel I'm more positive.

I think it was a turning point. I had to find a way to be free from things that had been bothering me.
I'm finally feeling relaxed because I found a clue. I say I'm more positive now; More active and optimistic :)

Recently, I got to meet a lot of new people. Some of them are even specialized for something cool, and fortunately, they invite me sometimes for fun things.

Thank you for the invite. Thanks for letting me join something new. It may be a small thing to you, but means a lot to me.

I feel that I'm lucky to meet you. You make me smile, enjoy, get to know new things/people. I enjoy and it actually helps me with widening my world.

Plan B

If you notice that the schedule for today (tomorrow) doesn't work anymore, let's carry out the plan B. I name it plan B because I call the original schedule plan A.

For example, you were supposed to go to see a movie with friend today. But he called you in sick last night and told that he would stay home. So, what will you do? I say, in the past, I had been a little mad because of the situation that I wouldn't accomplish my plan for the day even though I know that it's something that can't be helped. However, since a point, I naturally stopped complaining and started to enjoy the situation that I'm actually in, because I can carry out some ideas that I've had in my mind; Plan B.

Plan B can be anything. It can be cleaning your place, cooking some foods that you can keep in the fridge for a while. Or, if you remember that friends were making a plan but you were not supposed to join because of the movie plan, you can call them and ask if you can join. Even if anyone can hang out with you, you can go anywhere by yourself if you feel like it. For example, you can go to a museum to see an exhibition that you've been interested. If the weather is nice, you can go to a park bringing a sandwich.

I think that having some ideas that you can actually carry out anytime is a really nice thing. You don't have to get mad even your original plan doesn't work all of a sudden, you just keep it to next time and can choose one of your plans B that seems to be good to carry out and just enjoy it.

One of my plans B was going to see flowers that is called shiba-zakura at a park which is a kind of far from my house. Actually I was planning doing something with someone the day, but since it didn't seem that would work, I decided to go to see the flowers. I've wanted to see it since before, and the season was perfect. Fortunately, the weather was great and I enjoyed my small trip going there.

So, do you have some ideas of "Plans B"? I'm sure they will enrich your life if you always keep a few ideas in your mind.

How Will It Taste Like?

Don't you agree that things can be more interesting and fun if you add some humor as a spice in your life? Basically, I'm a kind of serious person...of course I like humor, but I think, I haven't adopted that element so much in the situation when I introduced myself to new people. I think it's because I didn't feel it comfortable when people misunderstand me and take my words different from what I meant. So I've tried to describe myself as the way as I really am. However, for some reason, now I feel like playing around with humors and being free from thinking seriously too much. I think it's my good thing to think about things seriously, but also know it can be a bad thing as well to be too serious anytime.

While reading a book the other day, I got a hint that may make things more interesting when I meet new people. I've started working for it already, and can't wait to try it and see if it really works :) It's just a play...very little play with humor. I expect someone to enjoy my little humor and will be happy to meet those people who share similar sense of humor.

Anyway, I haven't accomplished working for the plan yet. It has to be done as soon as possible due not to miss the first chance! So, we'll see if my intention will work...maybe near in the future? :P Now I am excited.

My Assignment

On my way to work this morning, I saw a husband and wife on the train. There was an available seat in front of them, and the husband naturally held her shoulders, led her to the seat and she sat down. It looked very smooth like a stream. Such a scene may be just a simple thing, but I was a kind of impressed because it's something I'm not good at. I can easily imagine, if I were her, I would have told him to sit unless I'm really tired.

Compared to western countries, "lady first" habit is not so popular here in Japan and I'm one of those girls who are not so used to it. So I'm perplexed when I'm treated in nice a way as a "girl" by male friends. Yes, I'm a girl. A girl can get things on the tall shelf if she uses a stage. A girl can carry her bag by herself because it's her stuff and she shouldn't bring too much stuff in her bag more than her capacity. There is no wonder she pays for her own meal when she goes out with a male friend because she has the ability to pay for herself because she works and earning some money. That's been my view. You're working, I'm working, there is no reason to make you pay for me. You don't find it sweet, do you? I know I'm not, lol. I wanted to be treated as an equal person but a girl who has to be protected.

However, now I think that maybe I've been wrong. They already know that I can do things by myself and they are sweet to me not because they think I'm helpless, but think it's proper :) So I shouldn't take it negatively. It's much better for both of us to receive those favor unless they don't have some bad intention behind it, lol. Therefore my assignment is; Getting used to be treated nicely especially from the other sex. Do you find it funny? :P But when I accomplish my assingnment, maybe I won't collapse what is called a ROMANTIC MOOD anymore (I know I do it sometimes because of the shame(>_<)), right? ;)